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6.3.11
wrote this for my fren when I said I want to describe to her what an average life is. the original question was whether she wants to be extremely unhappy and bitter for a short period of time but enjoy the fruit of labour after that or just be averagely happy forever. so to describe an average life, here it goes "u work hard, graduate with a decent degree or diploma. then u get a job that pay average. u slog for a few years, work sucks because it's not what u like, but u just do because u feel the opportunity cost of jobless is too high. u can trap inside a job u dun like, u want to upgrade but u doubt u can take the stress of going back to books again. so everyday is just a drag to work. one day u saw someone u like, u two begins the ordinary courtship of movie, dinner plus a few occasion visit to neighbouring country only because ur work pays well but not that well. eventually two of u get married after 2 years in the relationship. firstly, u feel that u are too old to start a new relationship with someone else. secondly, u think he is just the kind that is decent enough to get married to. he also might married u because of pressure from age, social circle and mainly two of you might get married in order to pursue the social obligation that society put on you. also, u do need to marry in order to own a hdb before 35. you want to buy a car but can't afford on ur own. you want to buy a house but can't afford on ur own. however now that u are married, the combined financial status is just enough to afford both. just enough for a 4 room flat at a non mature estate with a simple Japanese car. life is simple, day is repeated. honeymoon period over, life is about payments after payments, days after days. the greater calling and also the government and also social pressure leads to a baby or two to complete the family. you raise ur kids with the mindset that you want to download all available information into their brain so they can be the person you never become. you keep telling them that they need to study hard hard so they can be a useful person, a doctor or a lawyer, it just doesn't matter as long as they have the income. u tell them if they dun study hard they will be average like u. but like all well known stats, average parents give birth to average children because of the lack of exposure to extraordinary and also lack of resources to download more into their brain. work is a drag, family is a drag, life is a drag. soon as u hit middle age, ur parents start to clock up hefty medical bill like all old people will, and ur children starts to be rebellious. ur day starts at 6, ends at 12. in order to keep the ends meet, the house in order, the laundry done. then u ask urself is that me for the next 10 years. unfortunately, yes. because Singapore children dun grow up till they graduate from Uni; which could be a good 25years for u to support them, wash their clothes, house them and give them monthly allowance so they can bring their gf to fancy restaurant that u dun even dare to enter in order to save more money for the household. u then define shopping as purchasing stuff from supermarkets while taking notes of discounts and offers. ur only pleasure out of life remains unknown because ur time is not ur time, ur time is divided by the demand of work and family. u dun even look the same because of the lack of resources and opportunity to doll up. u probably look fatter because of post pregnancy figure. so after u hit 50, u ask urself is that all to life?" is that what we want from life? |